Most parents actually DO realize that kids learn from them (either through words or actions). But – and this is a big but – most parents fail to actually keep this in mind when talking or doing. Knowledge is only part of the battle. Implementing the knowledge is what really matters.
Our kids learn from us while we speak with other adults. They learn from our facial expressions, our actions, and our reactions. If you yell at your spouse your kids will grow up learning that this behavior is acceptable. If you provide reasons such as, “Because I said so”, your kids will grow up thinking that they should submit to authority at all times. Do you REALLY want them to have that belief?
Another major tip for better parenting is to allow your child to make his own mistakes.
Seeing your child commit mistakes and just letting them be is very difficult for most parents. But I believe we need to step back and think about the risk versus the reward more deeply. Most of the time mistakes are harmless. Obviously you’re not going to let your child cross the street without looking – that is not a safe mistake to make. But what about all the other harmless mistakes kids would make without our intervention? They’re learning opportunities and you should let your child learn through is own experiences and mistakes.
Better communication is the next tip for better parenting. Always, always, always communicate with your child. Stop assuming you know what your child’s problem is, or why he is upset. Learn to ask good questions. Learn to influence your child’s emotional state through your own communication skills. I’m sure you are already aware that a strong marriage is based on good communication. Guess what? ALL relationships that are strong are based upon that same strong communication. A Parent-child relationship is no exception to the rule.
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